Let's get controversial

Before I get all up in talking about this mess, know that I'm not sure if my mama agrees with me, I don't know if my grandmama or neighbor agrees with me but this is the opinion I have formed from growing up and maturing in this world. Take it or stop reading now and leave it.

I'm Pro-Choice.

WAIT, it's not what you think.

That doesn't mean I'm Pro-Life.

That doesn't mean I'm Pro-Abortion

It means I'm Pro-"It's your body, your decisions and I can't force you to do what I think is right."

BUT what I can do is give my story in hopes that it helps guide the decision of that single mama scared to death or that married mama that knows she will be doing everything herself or even that young girl who will be giving her baby up for adoption at the end of 9 long months.

I was raised that abortion is wrong. 100% wrong. I had a friend in college have an abortion and it turned my world upside down.. MY world.. so you can only imagine how it affected her. I couldn't believe that someone that I considered my friend would make a decision like that. She didn't tell me until after she had it because she knew I'd shove the Bible down her throat to talk her out of it, and you know what, that makes me so sad for her. That makes me sad that she had to go through that alone because of how judgmental and forceful other people (her friends), who haven't even gone through something like that, could be.

I cried and cried and cried after she told me. It hurt my heart that not only did that baby not get a chance to live but that my friend did it alone. At the time, I had NO idea what it was like to have to make a decision like that. My friend's baby had several health issues and looking back now, thank God she didn't bring a child into the middle of her chaotic life. That doesn't mean I support the abortion but that means, she had every right to decide if HER life could handle a baby at the time, if HER body could handle it, and if HER sanity could handle it. She decided that it couldn't and that's that. SHE has to live and come to terms with that decision for the rest of her life.

Here is some truth for you - I considered abortion for .2 seconds... literally not even a whole second but that thought did cross my mind.

I was scared, I wasn't married, I wasn't in a healthy relationship, I lived an hour away from my family, I was going through a career change, and I was young.

I thought an abortion would allow my life to stay exactly how it was. Nothing would change. I could keep living my life the way I wanted to live it. But would I really? Would I just walk into a clinic, have an abortion, and never look back? No. Absolutely not.

Being a single mom is TOUGH but as a Christian woman, living with the weight of an abortion would be even tougher.

God chose me to be Parker's mommy. Me. Like I am SO lucky. Even before I knew Parker's name and that she would be a girl, the one thing that resonated in my mind was that God gave me this baby. He doesn't make mistakes. I went from a young, careless party girl to a mom all within the span of 1 year. How crazy? I knew that that was what God had called for me to do. I never wanted to be a mom and changing my mind set of what I thought life would be like was extremely challenging. It didn't happen over night. It didn't even happen the day Parker was born. It happened when being a single mom became so tough that the only person that could pull me out of the dark place I was in was God.

I tell you all of that to know that becoming a mom unexpectedly does not mean your life is over. It just means God has a different road planned ahead for you than you imagined. So I hope you, soon to be mama, read all my blogs and know that it is possible to be a happy, single mom.

If you're still reading this and you're in the middle of making a tough decision, just know that He wouldn't give you anything you can't handle. He will give you the strength you need to either get through your pregnancy, get through being a single mom, get through giving your baby up for adoption, or get through the tough process of an abortion. There are SO many options before you choose abortion but if you do, that's between you and your God but women like me will support you either way.

If you're the friend of someone that has decided to get an abortion, be the one friend that holds her hand through it even if you don't agree with her decision. That girl is scared. Be the person to support her rather than tear her down.

Being Pro-Life doesn't have to mean we support abortion. What it means is that we support other women and the right for them to make an extremely hard decision about THEIR bodies and THEIR life. Having a baby isn't the end of the road but not everyone is cut out to be a mama.