Fear of failing? No mam', pull it together.

Oh man, you guys, we're about to get real deep because feeling like a failure has become the norm in our society and it is heartbreaking. I see it everywhere. On social media, at work, on the news. We live in a dark place but I'm here to tell you, your life isn't finished because of one screw up.

People convince themselves that they are failures. You guys!!!! - just because you failed at one thing or even multiple things, that does not make you a failure. That is not how this works.

A few years ago, this was my mindset. I seriously was so hard on myself, it was honestly really sad. I thought that if I wasn't the best then I should quit. I was afraid to be bad at something. I was afraid to let people see me fail because what if I didn't get back up? What if that one fail put a stamp on the rest of my life? Ya'll, I would tough it out at cheer practice so hard that one time I told everyone I was "ok" but an hour later had to go to the ER because I was definitely not "ok". I didn't want to seem weak. I'm not saying cry every time you get a little scratch but learn your limits. Like news flash to old Madison, ONE failure does not define the rest of your life. Yes, there are several things you can fail at. It can go from just flunking a test to cheating on your spouse. BUT those mistakes do not define you.

So what you flunk a test? So what you get broken up with? So what someone disagrees with you? Who flipping cares. I know, I know, easier said then done, right? I was that girl crying over a break up thinking it was all my fault and I should just become a nun... like no mam', pull it together because you will live to see another day.

GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOU! When God created you, he had a plan for your life. How awesome is that? He knew where you would be right this very second, and the best part is, He planned these tragic failures to happen in your life so that it would shape you, not destroy you. These failures were created to push you towards His will for you. To guide you along in this crazy life because who really knows what tomorrow brings?

So what, I got pregnant unexpectedly and lost my job and my apartment and my self? I lost it all, I felt like a failure. I convinced myself that I was a failure because I let myself get pregnant and now my whole life wasn't going how I wanted it to go. Do you see where I'm going with this? If I continued on that path of self pity, I honestly don't know where I'd be today. I was luckily surrounded by some pretty amazing people who chose not to give up on me. They continued to love me and through their love, I began to get stronger and stronger everyday. The day I let God back into my heart was the turning point.

I mean I am literally opening up to strangers about the intimate details of my life because I know this is what God wants me to do. I know He is helping me create these blogs because He knows exactly who is going to read them and exactly what that one person needs to hear.

- Sorry guys, I totally went off on a tangent - BUT, what I'm getting at is, put yourself out there even if you think you're going to fail. I hope you do fail every now and again because it just makes you that much stronger and wiser. I had no idea what the heck I was doing when I wrote my first blog, but I decided to just go for it. Who cares if no one reads them or likes them, it makes me feel good to share what I went through.

So, if you've been thinking about taking that next step - take it! Don't wait. Take it right now! Whether it be that you want to move to that new city or take the new job or even start your own business. Yes, it's scary but listen to where God is pulling you and if He is telling you to start that blog, then flipping start typing now because I promise, He is not going to let you fail!

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